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Not Everyone Can Be a Winner

In light of the tragedy that happened on Friday where a twisted kid (I refuse to type his name) opened fire and killed seven people and wounded over a dozen more, I had to post my thoughts on this matter. When I read the reports of his reasons behind the killings my heart just turned cold. It’s almost unbelievable, you know? How can someone see women that way? It’s scary as hell is what it is. Because I guarantee this guy isn’t the only man out there that feels this way.

I think there is so much going on here that it’s difficult to point to a single reason and say “That’s it, we need to fix THIS and then everything will be okay.” It’s just not that simple. I see several things going on here, some of which I see in the students I teach in college:

~~The biggest  thing is seeing women as objects rather than people. We exist merely to serve men and their needs. *rolls eyes*. I got enough of that with my ex, thank you very much. Now he wasn’t as bad as this guy, I’m not saying that at all. But there are some eerie similarities between this kid and my ex. I can’t speak as to this kid’s religious beliefs but my husband professed to be a Christian.  He saw me as nothing more than someone who was supposed to be giving him kids (even though he knew I didn’t want kids when he married me), cook, clean, and obey his commands. And all from some verses he read in the Bible, mainly Ephesians. *again with the eye rolling* Unfortunately, this sort of mentality isn’t anything new. How many women live with abuse because their spouses lord over them, using religion as a weapon to make their wives submissive and obedient? I don’t mean to generalize because I’m sure there are plenty of true Christian men out there who would never use the Bible as a weapon against their wives.

~~The other thing I’m seeing is a serious decline in how we deal with those with mental health issues. And yes, sorry folks, but this kid had some SERIOUS mental issues going on. Plenty of people get rejected, bullied, etc and they don’t resort to killing. This kid had a rage that was terrifying and pointed; he wanted to  kill and he found his target in the women that he saw as being to blame for his not getting laid. Sorry dude, you needed to get your pecker wet, pay for a hooker. You don’t have the right to demand that ANY woman give you the time of day, I don’t care how friggin awesome you THINK you are. Our decisions are exactly that: OURS! We decide who to date and who to kiss and who to have sex with and to give our hearts to. Period, end of story. We have GOT to be able to commit people that post crazy ass manifestos like this kid did without having to wait till he actually kills someone. Am I the only one that sees this??? Once he hurts someone, it’s too late for the people he killed. I bet THEY wish he was locked up for as long as it took to get to the bottom of his rage and desire to kill, but maybe it’s just me…

~~My students (I teach college by the way) are stunned when they fail a class and just can’t comprehend that they didn’t get a gold star and a pat on the back just for showing up. Seriously, it’s getting to be ridiculous that I have to tell these adults in college that if they fail exams, they fail the class. And each semester it just keeps getting worse. They have been handed everything, never had to work for their grades in high school, been given awards and honors along with everyone else in the class. The idea of entitlement that is rampant in young people today. Again, I can’t say what the killer’s life was like growing up so I can’t say that mommy and daddy gave him everything he ever asked for but I don’t think I’d be too far off the mark by assuming they DID. And I’d say that added to this idea that he deserves anything he wants, be it a car or a woman. All things of this world are his because he deserves them. Sorry, but not everyone’s a winner. Some people will be better looking, thinner, richer, smarter, etc.  That doesn’t mean they are BETTER!!!!! It seems like this kid equated being nice (I have to shake my head at that one because generally speaking, nice people don’t want to kill people) and having a nice car to being better than the other guys the girls were choosing to date. Until our young people learn how to LOSE and lose with dignity, we will continue to see shit like this happening and women being afraid to say no to someone harassing her  because she’ll be afraid of him going off and killing her or a lot of other people.

What are your thoughts?

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5 Comments on “Not Everyone Can Be a Winner”

  1. cpbialois May 28, 2014 at 2:06 pm #

    I completely agree. I think you hit the biggest problems behind many issues. There really isn’t much in the way of accountability anymore. It’s really sad.

    • drshaywest May 28, 2014 at 2:09 pm #

      It’s sad and it’s also scary 😦 Anything you in the way of “no” can send someone over the edge.

      • cpbialois May 28, 2014 at 2:18 pm #

        Oh yeah. I used to have people threaten me over a few pennies in a price difference in the store I worked at. If they don’t get their way it’s all threats and hissy fits. I can’t believe how much it’s become the culture in the last 20 or so years.

  2. blazemcrob May 28, 2014 at 11:12 pm #

    You make a valid point here that people just don’t get what life is all about. To think that “they” are all it is a bit presumptuous. And to be rewarded for something you haven’t earned makes no sense. The work ethic has gone to pot, and respect for other human beings is no longer considered to be important. If a man cannot get a date and have a woman willingly have sex with him because she “wants” to ,and not because she should since he is the second coming in his own eyes, at the end of the night it comes down to righty or lefty, and try harder to make a woman like you. Fancy the concept. And, Shay, for anyone to dodge behind religion to get their way is just heinous. That nonsense does not work in my eyes.

    Many valid points, my friend!


  3. lisafender May 29, 2014 at 7:31 am #

    I agree wholeheartedly! I see the “sense of entitlement” in a lot of the 20 to 30 year olds in this country. they are spoiled and messed up in the head. This world is crazy any more!

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