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Life of a Single Lady


Being single ain’t all it’s cracked up to be.

Not in the sense that I can’t be alone or need someone in my life to feel complete. Because I’m pretty okay on my own. Except that it’s damn hard being on your own. Know what I mean? And I think the difficulties are greater when you are a woman.

I recently discovered that my sewer line needs to be replaced. Whole damn thing is the original clay piping used way back in the day (my house was built in the 50’s). The apple tree in the back yard has all but demolished a 20-30 foot section. When I found this out, I nearly vomited. Things like this aren’t covered under homeowners insurance and I don’t have the money to pay for the repairs unless I use my credit card (which I already used for storm windows and a new roof). It’s not like I use my credit card for huge shopping sprees or anything. But going to one income threw my finances really out of whack.

The biggest thing this incident has done is make me question my ability to take care of myself. I hate the idea that I need a man/husband in order to make ends meet. It’s a horrid, sickening feeling and I don’t like it. Not one bit. As a woman, I have to have my dad come hang out with me tomorrow while I get estimates from plumbers because he worries I’ll be taken advantage of. Do men worry about this kind of crap when they get estimates for repairs on their home or vehicle? *frustrated sigh*

I refuse to buy into the medieval belief that I’m nothing without a man, that I can’t take care of myself on my own, that I’m helpless, etc. I’m doing a pretty damn good job of it considering  my dismal salary as a college professor. *shrug* But it’s what I’m good at and it’s what I love so I guess those are the positive things to consider. Not to mention the amazing students I get to know every semester. Some strong and amazing friendships have grown over the years and I’m not sure I can give that up. I guess the only thing for me to do is keep plugging away, secure in the knowledge that I can take care of myself and that I am fine on my own…except that this single lady is sort of twitterpated with someone and is getting all sorts of feels LOL  😉

Maybe my sworn promise to stay single forever will be broken  😉

 

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4 Comments on “Life of a Single Lady”

  1. symplysilent October 30, 2014 at 5:53 pm #

    Is it that we need men? Or…is life easier with family and friends in general? Haven’t we gotten past medieval thinking? Look at our movies and books now. Stuff that was okay even twenty years ago would never fly now. Silent

    • drshaywest October 30, 2014 at 6:23 pm #

      I’d like to think we’ve gotten past medieval thinking. But there are a lot of women who tie their whole identity to being so-and-so’s wife and there are plenty of men (my ex included) who think women are nothing more than house slaves and baby factories

  2. Sally Ember, Ed.D. October 30, 2014 at 6:36 pm #

    So sorry, Shay! Money problems are so stressful. Sexism exacerbates many issues. Yuck! Best to you!

  3. meredithgschorr October 30, 2014 at 7:59 pm #

    I totally feel you – I let so many things in my apartment remain broken or not put together until I am dating someone or have a male friend over. I hate that I am so dependent on a man to do certain things. My sister says that I just assume I can’t do them myself and so it is a self-fulfilling prophesy. She’s correct to some degree, but I’m also pretty hopeless sometimes 😦 I don’t mind needing a man. I would mind less if I had one though…

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